“Not another detox, part of me thinks I don’t want to do that, it’s too hard however the part that is in tune knows how beneficial a physical clean out can be.” Just as our home needs a regular “move the furniture” type clean, so does our body.
However, there is another cleanse that is as equally important as our physical cleanse, it’s an emotional cleanse. When we eliminate old emotional thoughts, beliefs and patterns that have weighed us down or held us back we can open up new pathways that lead to healthier emotional choices.
Some may say that’s all well and good but how do you do an emotional cleanse? It can be very simple when you really want to. The first thing is willingness to want to change or gain a greater understanding around someone or something. With this in place it gives us a greater ability to be able to take an honest look at ourselves, our motivations, expectations and behaviours not just through our mind but also our heart.
Sometimes we can be operating on automatic pilot and just going through the motions and not really connected to what we are doing If we are doing the same things we will be getting the same results and even if we are hoping for better outcomes, our awareness may not be open enough to recognise it when it comes.
Love is the greatest cleanser in the world. It starts with love of self. I don’t mean the 70’s mantra “you have to love yourself”, I’m talking about the connectedness with our heart and soul and a genuine knowing of who we are. It is the ability to love ourselves through the most confronting times in our life. Whether we make mistakes, upset someone or withdraw from situations, it is not to make ourselves small by our mind’s internal reprimands as it leads to the same old automatic patterns playing out where nothing is solved.
It helps to face everything as if we are in the driver’s seat of our life and responsible for the creation of it. If we want to change things then we take charge of our thoughts, beliefs and actions to look at what is working, what is not and make changes accordingly.
Fear blocks us wanting to change which in turn stops the cleansing of emotions. We can sometimes be so fearful of the unknown we are prepared to stay unhappy in our lives. These fearful beliefs are just words we give power to and they continually restrict our movements and keep us in the passenger seat of our life.
When we connect to our true self and work with our heart’s natural way, rather than our mind making all the decisions, other important senses like intuition and purpose kick in. This take us into a bigger picture where we can recognise opportunities and get ourselves into the right place, at the right time for the right thing to happen.
Emotional cleansing is simply about being aware; it’s not a seasonal thing, it’s a lifestyle shift. Living life by first connecting internally and then viewing our external world in present time helps us to relate and enjoy everything we do. There is no need to hold onto the past or the future…all we have is right now in present time and our relationship with ourselves and each other, just as you read this article you are connecting to this moment….and have already started your emotional cleanse!
Suggestions that may help:-
1. Be honest and true to self and willing to change
2. Communicate to self or someone who will listen to help gain understanding
3. Observe your behaviour and be kind to yourself through the good, bad and ugly
4. Relax. Do things that nurture and fulfil
5. Know that things can change in a moment, just because things have looked a certain way doesn’t mean they have to stay that way
Enjoy your Autumn cleanse of turning over a new leaf whether it be physically, emotionally or both!
Published One Magazine March 2017